36: Building A Psychological Foundation For A Life Well Lived

Joan Rosenberg, PhD, psychologist, is a best-selling author, corporate wellness consultant, and media expert who is known globally as an acclaimed speaker and trainer on communication, confidence, resilience, authenticity, and grief.

As a three-time TEDx speaker and member of the Association of Transformational Leaders, she has been recognized for her innovative Emotional Mastery / confidence-building approach, and for her thought leadership and global influence in personal development.

Dr. Rosenberg has served as a mental health media consultant for documentaries, print, radio, television, and digital outlets.

She is a professor of psychology at Pepperdine University.

In this episode we address:

* The Rosenberg reset: The 90 sec formula= One choice, Eight feelings for 90 seconds. The one choice is to be aware, versus avoiding.

* To stay present. See we do pleasant well. We need to lean into the unpleasant. The key is to be able to stay present and ‘tolerate’ the eight pleasant feelings.

* Why eight? Because they are the most common feelings we experience when things don’t turn out our way. The eight are: sadness shame helplessness anger vulnerability embarrassment disappointment frustration

* The 90 seconds is based on neuroscience. When we have a feeling, they fire off body chemistry, which activates body sensations. When we flood, the bloodstream, via this causation of a feeling. By the time we flood the chemistry and flush it out is roughly 90 seconds.
So all you have to do is stay present. Then you get access to your full capacity of feelings.

* Your breath (the way in which you breathe) informs your body if you are safe or not

* 3 main ways the keep unpleasant feelings to linger (drag out)
1) focus on what you don’t want
2) repeat the thoughts and or memories that recreate the feelings
3) harsh self-criticism

* Conscious languaging examples
starting with ‘phraseology’ -if you begin your verbal ques with these types of questions am I?, can I? do I?, will I?- you only foster doubt.

When you change the syntax (the order of the words) then you make them declarative statements and this puts you back in the driver seat- I am, I can, I do, I will – “Can I really pull this off?” – “Can I achieve what I want to achieve?” – “Do I have what it takes to succeed?” – “Will I be able to deliver a good presentation?” – “Will I do a good job?” – “Will I be well-liked?” – “Am I going to be able to complete this project?” – “Am I good enough?”

To learn more about Dr, Joans work visit https://drjoanrosenberg.com/
you can follow her on Instagram here https://www.instagram.com/drjoanrosenberg/.

Her latest book is 90 Seconds to a Life You Love: How to Master Your Difficult Feelings to Cultivate Lasting Confidence, Resilience, and Authenticity.
For a free gift: https://drjoanrosenberg.com/gift

Here’s a link to one of Dr. Joans Tedx Talks going into these feelings in detail Emotional Mastery: The Gifted Wisdom of Unpleasant Feelings Dr. Joan Rosenberg https://youtu.be/EKy19WzkPxE